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queenrileyI know there are a few mums who read my journal, and those of you who aren't mum's might be of some assistance as well. I need your help! For those of the weaker constitution, I suggest not reading
My daughter is 20 months old. I wasn't going to start potty training her until she was 2, but she has been wanting to sit on the potty for so long that we got her a potty seat. She can pull her pants down and sit on it, and she understands what happens when you sit on the potty. We have an "open door" policy in my house. If there aren't visitors, we leave the door open when we go potty so Alex could see and get an idea of what it was for. She'll run up to me, grab my hand and say "Potty!" so we'll go back to the bathroom and pull her pants down. She's still wearing a diaper because she doesn't have control over those muscles yet, though we are going to pullups soon I think. Anyway, we get all that off and she sits down and just sits because by the time she comes to tell me potty, she's usually already going.
There would be nothing wrong with this, except she gets very frustrated when she sits on the potty and nothing happens. I praise her for the effort every single time she tries and let her know that it's okay that she didn't go, but it was good that she tried. We sit there as long as she wants to and we go whenever she says she wants to. I don't expect her to be able to use her potty yet. I still think she's a little young to be potty trained, especially since she doesn't fully recognize the feeling of having to go before she goes. Usually she feels she has to go, comes and tells me, but is going in her diaper as she tells me. I can tell this because of her freshly wet diaper that is usually still absorbing what has just hit it.
I don't want to keep her off the potty because she really wants to sit on it and use it and to tell her no now would cause more problems later. I don't want to push her to learn either. We are being very relaxed about this. I just want to help her not be so frustrated when she sits down and doesn't do anything because she's already gone in her diaper. Does anybody have any idea how I can help her not be frustrated, or at least help her deal with the frustration? Most of the potty training books I've read and tips I've looked up have all been for older children who don't want to go potty, not for helping younger children who do want to go but can't.
Any suggestions at all will be helpful, even if you've never potty trained or don't have children of your own. If you have an idea on how to help keep Alex from getting frustrated when she 'goes potty but doesn't go' than add it on! Any idea will be helpful at this point. Thank you. :)
On another note, my Valentine's Day was horrible, as I said, but yesterday Jeff took me for a haircut and dinner, and that was nice. He also bought me Amelie on DVD which was very nice of him as I know he could care less about that movie and has no desire to see it, whereas I've seen it once and adored it (I think if he watched it, he might like it). So yesterday was good, though the issues from Valentine's Day (and before, actually, but the cumulation of which was on the 14th) are still hanging over my head. I'll work through it eventually. Thanks everybody for the support you've offered and all the ehugs. I really do appreciate it. :)
My daughter is 20 months old. I wasn't going to start potty training her until she was 2, but she has been wanting to sit on the potty for so long that we got her a potty seat. She can pull her pants down and sit on it, and she understands what happens when you sit on the potty. We have an "open door" policy in my house. If there aren't visitors, we leave the door open when we go potty so Alex could see and get an idea of what it was for. She'll run up to me, grab my hand and say "Potty!" so we'll go back to the bathroom and pull her pants down. She's still wearing a diaper because she doesn't have control over those muscles yet, though we are going to pullups soon I think. Anyway, we get all that off and she sits down and just sits because by the time she comes to tell me potty, she's usually already going.
There would be nothing wrong with this, except she gets very frustrated when she sits on the potty and nothing happens. I praise her for the effort every single time she tries and let her know that it's okay that she didn't go, but it was good that she tried. We sit there as long as she wants to and we go whenever she says she wants to. I don't expect her to be able to use her potty yet. I still think she's a little young to be potty trained, especially since she doesn't fully recognize the feeling of having to go before she goes. Usually she feels she has to go, comes and tells me, but is going in her diaper as she tells me. I can tell this because of her freshly wet diaper that is usually still absorbing what has just hit it.
I don't want to keep her off the potty because she really wants to sit on it and use it and to tell her no now would cause more problems later. I don't want to push her to learn either. We are being very relaxed about this. I just want to help her not be so frustrated when she sits down and doesn't do anything because she's already gone in her diaper. Does anybody have any idea how I can help her not be frustrated, or at least help her deal with the frustration? Most of the potty training books I've read and tips I've looked up have all been for older children who don't want to go potty, not for helping younger children who do want to go but can't.
Any suggestions at all will be helpful, even if you've never potty trained or don't have children of your own. If you have an idea on how to help keep Alex from getting frustrated when she 'goes potty but doesn't go' than add it on! Any idea will be helpful at this point. Thank you. :)
On another note, my Valentine's Day was horrible, as I said, but yesterday Jeff took me for a haircut and dinner, and that was nice. He also bought me Amelie on DVD which was very nice of him as I know he could care less about that movie and has no desire to see it, whereas I've seen it once and adored it (I think if he watched it, he might like it). So yesterday was good, though the issues from Valentine's Day (and before, actually, but the cumulation of which was on the 14th) are still hanging over my head. I'll work through it eventually. Thanks everybody for the support you've offered and all the ehugs. I really do appreciate it. :)
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Date: 2003-02-17 08:27 am (UTC)There's actually a whole book of two-page digests of famous novels and plays
in Britain, called "Reading on the Loo".
Just a suggestion ;)
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Date: 2003-02-17 08:50 am (UTC)After some time has gone by I'll add the pants and after that we'll see about the not-wearing--a-diaper-while-we're-out thing. Well, that's the extent of my advice...but I will note that it's probably a lot less disturbing to see Alex half-naked than it is to see Ben half-naked.
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Date: 2003-02-18 04:40 am (UTC)-I was eating chocolate with nut bits as I read this and I totaly failed to see why this should effect any constitute. but then again thats just me.
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Date: 2003-02-18 06:10 am (UTC)Re:
Date: 2003-02-18 06:17 am (UTC)I'm going to try the idea of no pants, but I think for now I'll try pull-ups, since she can get those down on her own when she needs to and she still doesn't have quite the control I think Ben probably does. :) If the pull-ups don't work, then we'll go fancy free.
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Date: 2003-02-18 06:19 am (UTC)I don't know how well Alex would do with a book, as when she usually gets a book handed to her, she climbs in my lap so I can read it to her. I don't imagine that would be too conductive to going potty in the potty. ;)
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Date: 2003-02-18 08:00 am (UTC)Im a being of the netherrealm... muhahahhaa
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Date: 2003-02-18 08:01 am (UTC)